Emotional Freedom Technique for LOVE

Emotional Freedom Technique for LOVE

by Sherri Carter, MS, ATH Co-Editor of PsychoSpiritual

Editor’s Note from Sherri Carter: I love Emotional Freedom Technique! It really gets to the root issues, helps to release limiting beliefs while creating new emotional attachments to new truths of possibility! read the rest


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The Need for Acceptance

The Need for Acceptance

“Knowing others is wisdom; knowing the self is enlightenment.”
– Tao Te Ching

Before we are born, whilst we are in the womb, we are part of the womb, part of the mother, all connected, an intermingling of chemicals, energy and whatever else is there. When we are born, a physical connection is severed. And we breathe to obtain oxygen and we suckle at the breast for nutrition. Our senses pick up more sensations and we do not yet have the understanding that we are ourselves, that we are separate. We are very aware of how wonderful we feel. We are very aware of being, but we are unaware that what we see is not us. As a baby we feel that everything in our world is us, we cannot distinguish between out there and in here.

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Digging deeper into 'I can'

Digging deeper into 'I can'

In the last posting I mentioned the importance of ‘I can’, this is important for you in achieving your goal, for it acts as a door opener. It begins to establish a direction which leads to the future, and somewhere along that direction or path is the future you, with the successful attainment of your goal.

The mind automatically follows a direction, and if you are not happy with your results today, then you have followed a direction that is incompatible with your desires. If you are unhappy, with your results so far, then these results are compatible with the direction/path that you are on. You have been following this path for years or if not that long, then since a life changing event. A life changing event creates a change in direction, which is why it is life changing. From the moment the direction changed your life is different.

When articulating the problem, we generally look at the details, yet it is the big picture that needs articulating first. Once you are aware of the big picture, then the details can be seen where they fit into the big picture.

The problem can be detailed such as ‘I am unhappy with my life and I want to be happy with my life’ or something similar. This is the general big picture in relation to happiness. It is important not to look for blame with statements such as ‘I am unhappy because ……’ This is a natural tendency, for we feel if we know the cause then we can fix the problem and we want to fix it as soon as possible. But when we do this, we are simply creating a knee jerk reaction to some minor part in the problem, we are not looking at the big picture.

The problem is that you are experiencing life a certain way and you desire a different experience. Though this is simple, it can be confusing for we are used to seeking details.

Bear with me as I continue to harp on what may seem an insignificant point. When we are struggling in any area and we are unhappy with life, then we naturally look for simplistic causes, for this is the way the conscious mind and our ego function. They are very linear and see everything in terms of A caused B and B caused C. And as it is You (the identity of the ego and conscious mind), then you will simply function this way.

However, your experience of life is determined by the unconscious patterns which are in harmony with the unconscious direction. The pattern and direction always co exist in harmony. The pattern and direction joined together create your life experience.

So in looking to be successful, you need to change the patterns and the direction of your life. To show you a little about the power of patterns and direction, please reflect on these questions:

1. If you had success now, you were happy with yourself and you were happy with your life, would this fit? Can you see yourself remaining like this for the rest of your life? Are you the type of person who can be like this? Are you worth it? Have you the right to be successful? Do you have permission to be successful? Do not answer too quickly or get angry at the questions, just allow yourself to reflect and be curious of what answers emerge. Because you want to be successful and happy etc, but are there any parts of yourself that do not want this goal. Are any parts of your unconscious that is against you achieving your goal?

1. What is the worst thing that will happen if you are a success andhappy with yourself etc? This may sound like a weird question, and what is the first response (after you say nothing) you get? It doesn’t matter how ridiculous the answer is.

What could be some of the benefits of remaining how you are?

In every situation there are costs and benefits, in no. 2 above you may be aware of the benefits to being happy, but not the costs and in no. 3 you probably are aware of the costs of having a lack of successs but not the benefits. What you are unaware of is the unconscious motivation and the unconscious is very aware of costs in no.2 and the benefits in no.3.

See how you go with these questions and your reflections. To be continued:

Relative to the level of awareness that is possible for us, our ordinary state of consciousness is as far from a direct
experience of reality as sleep is from waking consciousness.
-- Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson

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'I can'

Being happy with yourself – “I can”

“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.” – Alvin Toffler

What can I do? This is an important question to ask when one wants to overcome a problem, and being sad and unhappy is a problem for it interferes with the smooth functioning of the body and the appreciation of the life experience. Being sad or unhappy occasionally as a result of certain effects is understandable and desirable. But many are unhappy with themselves and so unhappiness is a continual undercurrent of their life.

So “What can I do?” is asked in relation to the perceived problem. How do you perceive the problem? The first step in finding a solution to a problem is to fully understand and articulate the ‘problem’. Many assume they know what the problem is and yet are actually unaware of the real problem. So the real solution will not be found. You may be unhappy, sad depressed, these are effects or symptoms and though they create additional problems, they are not the problem.

If you are happy with yourself then you will not have these problems. Though this is true, the wrong assumption of finding, trying or know how to be happy will provide happiness and therefore problem solved. Most of the how to be happy techniques only have a temporary effect as they do not address the underlying problem. So without a clear understanding of the problem, when you ask “What can I do?” you become deflated and feel vulnerable, for you probably assume that you can do very little.
This is a huge mistake and a lie. Feeling that you can do little or nothing, you then put your life in the hands of the experts, whoever that may be. It may seem logical to trust these people, but putting your life in the hands of anyone, has the unconscious meaning that you have no control over your life and living. This is detrimental to the healing process. You truly become a victim of your unhappiness rather than master of your health, life and living.

Seeking expert help is extremely beneficial and should be sought, but make sure you are in control. You are enlisting their help and assistance. They are not there to ‘fix’ you, you are there to learn something valuable to use in your life. You are using them to empower yourself. When you ask the question “What can I do?” Answer, “I will be happy with myself”, “I will love myself”, “I will be healthy” or use “I can” instead of “I will”. “I will” has a commitment applied and is therefore stronger and leads into the future. Though if this doesn’t feel true, then use “I can”, this accepts the possibility that you or anybody can be happy with themselves. Realize that “I can” or “I will” is more important than knowing how! Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that you have to know how. The how will Always appear once you accept “I will”.

Knowing and committing to a goal is a prerequisite to knowing how. Once you accept that you will be healthy (or achieve any goal) the creative unconscious mind will create or discover the how to. Become an ‘I can’ person, overcoming obstacles, no matter how difficult, makes you a stronger person. In reality, nothing is too hard or difficult once you admit ‘I can’. When you state ‘I can’ you unleash unconscious potentials, that you most likely were not aware of. You have exactly the right amount of potential and capacity to achieve health and freedom from cancer, within you, this is a fact. ‘I can’ is a gateway to that potential. Try it out! Next i will write about articulating the underling problem.
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The Power of attitude

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Change your pattern – Change your life

Change your pattern – Change your life

As I have stated often, healing your life occurs as a result of a change in pattern, the pattern is how you operate/function in life. The guiding principle of the pattern is a direction, a pathway to the future. Human nature like all things operates according to universal laws, one of them is the conservation of energy, a principle of this law is the path of least effort, to be efficient, not necessarily effective, and expend the least energy. We form patterns of existing that are reflective and in harmony with the direction of our life. The direction and pattern of existence is firmly in place by the time we are six years old.

We will adhere to that direction for the rest of our lives, it is efficient and so we subconsciously follow the path ahead and ‘come what may’, and our future is on that pathway. Unless something happens that forces us off that pathway.

A change in that pathway/direction is a result of a life changing event, something occurs that results in the pattern/direction and future becoming invalid and a reworking or transformation of the pattern occurs and so a new direction and therefore future occurs.

Following is an example of a change of pattern/direction/pathway and future, it is from Milton Erickson a brilliant hypnotherapist and a truly great understander of human nature and the patterns involved. Though he was not involved in the therapeutic undertakings, he recounts these events, as written in the book‘Phoenix – Therapeutic Patterns of Milton H. Erickson’ by David Gordon & Meyers-Anderson.

Milton Erickson tells the story of a man named Joe. Joe was one bad dude.

The thing that influenced me most in shaping my thinking in the matter of psychotherapy is. I was living on a farm in Wisconsin in an area where an eighth grade graduation was the ultimate in education. High school was not approved of. Any boy or girl that went to high school, they were on their way to be educated fools. And that was not approved of. When I was about ten years old my father sent me to the neighboring village about a mile away on an errand. And, of course, as I came into the village, my schoolmates this one summer came rushing to meet me and they told me the exciting news – “Joe is back!” I had never heard of Joe, but they soon informed of who Joe was. Joe, at the age of twelve, a farmer’s son and only child, had been expelled from school because of brutality and beating up the other children, his vandalism, his incorrigible behavior …. and he had stabbed his father’s hogs, and calves and cows and horses with pitch forks.

And he several times tried to set the barn to fire and the house afire. Well, at the age of twelve his parents took him to court, had him committed to the Industrial School for boys. At the age of fifteen the Industrial School paroled him. On the way home Joe committed some burglaries and was picked up by the police and promptly returned to the Industrial School, where he had to stay until he was twenty-one years old. By that time his parents were dead and they disposed of their property leaving Joe without any inheritance. And when he was discharged at age twenty-one he was given a suit and $10, and he headed for Milwaukee …. And shortly arrested for burglary and sent to the Young Men’s Reformatory in Green bay. He served every day of that sentence – in other words, no time off for good behavior. He was released from the reformatory, he went into the town of Green Bay, and committed some more burglaries.

The police picked him up and he was sent to state prison. And when he completed every day of that sentence he was released, went into the village and committed some more burglaries and was arrested by another policeman and given a second term in the state prison. After serving every day of that term, he returned to the village. That day I arrived in the village it was his fourth day in town. Each of the three previous days he had spent standing beside the cash register estimating the day’s take of the merchants at three different stores. And all of them knew that Joe had broken into their store and stolen a lot of things. A man who owned a motor boat had found his motor boat missing. And the morning I arrived Joe was sitting on a bench under the store awning staring into the distance.

Now it happened that there was a farmer about three miles from the village, a farmer who had three hundred acres of company land. He was a very rich man, had beautiful buildings, and to work three hundred acres requires a hired man. And his daughter Susie had graduated from eighth grade, she was about five feet ten, and she could work alongside any man in the community. She could pitch hay, plow fields, help with the butchering … any task she could handle. The entire community felt bad about Susie. She was a good looking girl, she was famous for her housekeeping, her dressmaking and her cooking, and she was an old maid at twenty-three years. And that should not be. Everybody thought Susie was too choosy.

On that particular day when I went to the village on the errand, Susie’s father’s hired hand quit, because of a death in the family and said he would not be back. And Susie arrived, tied up the horse and buggy, came walking down the street. And Joe stood up and blocked her pathway. And Joe looked her up and down very thoroughly, quietly … and Susie with equal poise looked him up and down very thoroughly. Finally Joe said. “Can I take you to the dance next Friday?” Now the village always had a weekly dance on Friday nights for all the young people. And Susie was very much in demand at those dances and she regularly drove in and attended the dance. And when Joe said, “Can I take you to the dance next Friday?” Susie said coolly, “You can if you’re a gentleman.”

Joe stepped out of her way. She performed her errand, went back. And the next morning the merchants were very glad to find boxes full of stolen goods at their front doors. And the motor boat had returned. And Joe was seen walking down the highway towards Susie’s father’s farm. Word soon got around that he had asked Susie’s father for the job of hired hand, and he was hired. And made a magnificent wage of $15 per month. He was allowed to have his meals in the kitchen with the family. And Susie’s father said, “We’ll fix a room for you in the barn.”

Joe turned out to be the best hired hand that community had ever seen. Joe worked from sun up to long past sun down, seven days a week. Joe was six feet three, a very able bodied man and, of course, Joe always walked to the village on Friday nights to attend the dance. Susie drove in to attend the dance. And much to the ire of the other young men, Susie usually danced with Joe every dance. And Joe’s size made then wary of pointing out to Joe the error of his way by appropriating Susie. In just about a year the community was buzzing with the gossip because Susie and Joe were seen going out Saturday evening for a drive, or ‘sparking’, as the term was used. And there was even more gossip the next day – on Sunday - Susie and Joe went to church together.

And thereafter for some months, Joe and Susie went for a drive every Saturday evening and to church on Sunday. And after some months of this, Susie and Joe were married. And Joe moved from the barn into the house. He was still the best hired man imaginable and Joe and his father-in-law. With some aid of Susie, ran the farm. And Joe was such a good worker that when a neighbor got sick, Joe was the first one to show up to help with the chores. And they soon forgot all about Joe’s history of being an ex convict.

Now when I decided to go to high school a lot of the neighbors were displeased. But Joe encouraged me to go to high school and encouraged a lot of other kids to go to high school. I decided to go to university – the neighbors groaned about that Erickson kid becoming an educated fool and Joe encouraged me to go to college. He thought it was a very excellent idea for all young people to go to college. And Joe’s popularity in the neighborhood was such that he was elected to the school board. And at the first meeting of the school board all the parents were there. And Joe opened the meeting by saying, “You folks have elected me president of the school board. You gave me the most votes and that means president. Now I don’t know much about school. I know all of you want your kids to grow up decent kids with an education so they can live better lives than working from sun up to long after sun down seven days a week … and when you educate your children forget about taxes – hire the best teachers, and get the best school supplies, the best books.” And Joe was elected to the school board repeatedly. And Joe’s reputation literally blossomed anew from the day he hired out for $15 a month, which was later raised to $30 a month.

Eventually Susie’s parents died and Susie inherited the farm. Joe and Susie had no children but Joe had no trouble getting hired men. He went to the state reformatory for young men and asked for any young, promising ex-convict from the reformatory. The reformatory was for first time offenders.

Some of those men lasted a day, a week, a month, and some for months. As long as they worked Joe kept them around and treated them well. And he served to rehabilitate quite a number of ex convicts. When I got my job as state psychologist for Wisconsin to examine all inmates in penal and correctional institutions, Joe was very happy for me, and Joe told me. “There’s an old record at the Industrial School that you ought to read, an old record at the reformatory that you ought to read, an old record at the state prison that you ought to read.”

I knew what Joe meant, so I read the Industrial School record. It was very, very violent, Joe had been incorrigible, destructive and brutal in relationship to the other boys there and he had been kept in solitary confinement most of the time from the age of twelve to twenty-one. And his record at Green Bay reformatory was equally black. Joe had been very combative, aggressive. He was kept in solitary, took his meals in solitary. The guards were afraid of him. And when Joe was allowed out of his cell to exercise, two husky guards his size or larger walked through the exercise yard with him … one guard ten feet to the right, the other ten feet to the left. If Joe were to jump on one of them the second guard would have the chance to jump to the rescue of his fellow guard.

The record at the State prison was very, very black. Joe displayed his combativeness, his aggressiveness, his capacity to beat up fellow convicts and he served most of the time in the dungeon. The dungeon was eight feet by eight feet by eight feet, the floor sloped toward the door. It was a very thick, heavy wooden door with a small slot in the door at the base of the door and once a day, usually at one or two A.M a tray of food would slip quietly through that slot. And once a week the cell was hosed out for sanitation purposes. Now I’ve been in that dungeon … it issound proof and light proof. And living in thatdarkness and silence practically all of his two terms in state prison is pretty severe punishment. And Joe never got a day off. When they did take him out of the dungeon they locked him in a solitary cell. He was exercised by two guards accompanying him, all alone in the exercise yard.

Now after the first sentence had been served at the prison, he went to the village and committed robberies and was sent back to the prison and they were all afraid of Joe. And the fellow convicts who I interviewed who knew Joe told me very earnestly. “That Joe is a bad one!” and they were afraid of him. And all the psychotherapy Joe received was; “You can if you’re a gentleman”.

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Joe had a reason to change and create a new life, in an instant he became a new man.

I wonder what reason or purpose you will discover to have the life that you want?

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Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can.
                                         -- Richard Bach

Top 10 Tips for Healing Your Love

• Wendy Strgar
• January 13, 2012
• 11:04 am
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by Wendy Strgar, Good Clean Love, Inc.

Recognizing that our relationships are our most gentle teachers in life is a great way to approach the work involved in staying with them. We too often don’t value and trust the huge amounts of resources that we have invested into them and are too willing to dispose of them before really digging into the work before us. While some relationships were a bad idea from the day they started, the majority are actually perfectly designed to help us grow into the best people we can be. I have been sharing these love tips for years and consistently hear back from our friends and customers that doing the work of love rewards them in ways they couldn’t have imagined. Remember that often the feeling of hitting the wall in love lives in us only moments before a breakthrough that gives meaning to our promises. Make this New Year full of love.

1. The truth is that intimacy begets intimacy. Studies support the strong correlation between a happy relationship and the frequency of sex. Sexual intimacy acts as the glue in long-term relationships, like pouring cement into a foundation inspiring a deep union that paves the way for more emotional closeness and richer communication.

2. Communication issues are often at the heart of a relationship impasse. This is because we all mistakenly believe that we can tell someone how things are. Truly successful communication actually takes place in listening. Listening is such a powerful form of communication that most people cannot tell it apart from feeling loved.

3. It is easy for couples to confuse co-existing with truly showing up for each other. They appear the same when we grow accustomed to not allowing ourselves to need and be needed. Co-existing doesn’t have any of the stickiness factors that showing up does because it happens out of habit, not choice. Truly showing up translates into the safety that you bring to every other part of your relationship.

4. You are what you love, not what loves you back. This is a profoundly freeing recognition that allows you to experience the depth and breadth of your capacity for love. It is a literal revolution for your heart to open up to the most instructive emotional experience we are capable of. Emotional intelligence develops in us with our capacity to love. No one can take that from any of us and love teaches without the need for reciprocity.

5. Relationships can only move forward when both people have two feet in. You don’t ever really get to see what your relationship can become if you or your partner keep one foot out the door. It is an entirely different relationship when both partners are engaged and really committed to making their promises work, one that you can’t even imagine when you are holding the door ajar with one foot.

6. Take responsibility for your erotic self. No one else can heal it or make it work. Begin with getting to know your pleasure anatomy. Freud once famously commented, “The only thing about masturbation to be ashamed of is doing it badly.” Learning about your own pleasure response and charting a map to your own orgasm is empowering and will open you to couples pleasure like nothing else.

7. Your feelings should not be allowed to define your story. Feelings are like weather systems that provide fertile information for your life, but they are too changeable and impermanent to trust as a compass for what you are doing in your relationships. Sometimes the most challenging work in a relationship is the very thing needed to strengthen the resolve in your capacity to love.

8. Your attention is the most powerful change agent you can bring to your relationships. Consider how you attend to the details of your financial life, or your career path- your intimate relationships deserve at least that much of your daily attention. They will not thrive without the consistency and patience that all growth requires.

9. Introduce the required physical conversation into your relationship. Stop talking about it and let your body’s wisdom lead you into a language of touch that often has the power to communicate what is behind the words. A physical, but not necessarily sexual conversation is the open door to a more emotionally connected relationship.

10. Your thoughts are the blueprint for your relationship. Your partner knows what you are thinking, even when you don’t say it. We often take ourselves and our relationships too seriously or worse still, hold them hostage to our unspoken doubts. Try for a little levity and lean more heavily on our innate capacity for kindness. Cultivate thoughts that bring you closer to the relationship you envision and vigilantly weed out the ones that don’t.

If you’d like to download these tips, please partake in this free PDF file.

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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love and family. Wendy helps couples tackle the questions and concerns of intimacy and relationships, providing honest answers and advice. Wendy lives in Eugene, OR with her husband, a psychiatrist, and their four children.

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What is Reality?

Posted: Friday, January 13, 2012

by Philip Martin⁽⁵⁷⁾
http://www.healyourcancer.org

What is reality? we may say that there are many different levels or dimensions of reality and whatever level of reality you are in that is okay. Actors in a TV series are displaying story lines of characters that script writers have written. They come together in a studio and play out their roles. As viewers what do we see? We see a TV screen, a rather small object, and we watch the unfolding drama. We laugh, we cry, we get angry and we can empathize and identify with the lives on that screen. We can discuss the goings on of the characters of the show with our colleges at work and friends and partners. We discuss and contemplate the emotions and feelings of our TV friends. Their lives and behaviors and consequences seem real and we know it is not real, though I fear some people find it hard to appreciate that the actors are not the characters, that is, the characters are make believe, an illusion.

Sometimes actors get too identified with their character that they are portraying and they begin to feel that they are the character. Perhaps the character (especially the hero type) is more appealing to the actor than himself. They start to believe they are the character. The image becomes reality and this is what we do, we believe we are our image.

An image that we portray to the world and we imagine other people perceiving us in the way the image is intended. Images communicating to images, making lots of noise and much ado about nothing. And that is totally okay, there is nothing right or wrong about that. We all do it. It is just another layer built on preceding layers, just the very tip of the iceberg. If we are aware of the layers that are underneath, then we will be happy for we know more of our realities. But if we think that we are only the outermost or the topmost layer, then happiness etc will elude us and we will be deluded. The more layers we are aware of then the more we know of ourselves.

Enlightenment is knowing all of ourself. ‘Know thy self!’ has been echoed throughout our history by mystics and sages and yet how many of us truly want ‘to know myself’? Not just the behavior or why we do the things we do, not understand, not to know a small part of our self, but to Know all.

Knowing ourselves has been acknowledged by all the mystics and sages of the past as the key to enlightenment. Knowing ourselves is a wonderful and mysterious journey filled with awe. There is nothing to be afraid of and yet what prevents us is the fear of the unknown. More correctly it is the fear of ourself that creates the fear of the unknown. Our identity, the ego is the creator of this fear. Our ego fears its own creation, ego fears and is terrified of nothingness. It is terrified that if it reverses direction, instead of going outwards but going inwards it will end up at the beginning. At the starting point of itself, and what then but nothingness, oblivion. The ego will try to prevent you going in that direction, it will produce fear and terror, all fabricated. Illusion, trickery and sleight of hand, but feeling real nevertheless. It works and we simply regain our forward, outward, away from direction, it seems so logical, so logical, so logical, time moves forward, goes from here to there, let’s go that way.

And so we know little of our self, a single drop of water in all the oceans of the world and as we age we know less. The most liberating experience you can have on this plane of existence is reversing direction, diving in, going down and discovering what is there, passing through levels of awareness, becoming more as you do. And nothingness is the gateway, the door, the entry between soul and out here, simply a passageway, pass through and you have enlightenment. But your purpose is not to stay there, for that is what it is, it is all and complete and whole. Your purpose is to be aware of this and then move back through the passageway and up through the levels, with the only knowledge there is, the knowledge of you. You may choose to remove yourself from the noise and illusion of our materialistic world and become a recluse and spend as much time as possible inside and that is okay or you may do exactly what you were doing before and that is okay. Or anything in between.

You will now know more than the tip of the iceberg, you will have been a part of the iceberg, the totality of the iceberg and now there is nothing to fear. You know. What next then is up to you, your ego being just as important as the bliss, will have the ability to decide but decide on knowledge and truth rather than fear. There will be more calmness, a different type of calmness a calmness that is ever present, more of a peacefulness really, even when you are very actively involved in any sort of pursuit or action.

Here is an apt Zen saying, "Before Enlightenment chop wood carry water, after Enlightenment, chop wood carry water." The things that need doing are the same as before. What is different is that you are fully present doing the actions and it feels good doing them because you have chosen to do them. You appreciate, you love, you see illusion for illusion and you stop being illusion. All your uplifting strong emotions are small representations of soul. But words are just words.

So what is reality? Don’t we want to know what reality is? Reality is not meaning, not purpose, not searching, not seeking, not you, not I, not me, not us, not we, not them, not this, not that, not this and that, not time, not space, not boundaries, not love, not hate, not desire, not wants, not needs, not everything, not nothing, not anything.

Reality is a construct depending on where we observe and perceive our experience from -

1. From a cell in our body
2. From our inner mind
3. From our ego – by far the most common and therefore universally accepted by mankind
4. From mankind as a specie
5. From life on the planet
6. From the planet
7. From the moon
8. From the centre of a galaxy
9. From the universe
10. From outside the universe
11. From a web that has no weaver

By Philip Martin

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Philip Martin is a Naturopath, Hypnotherapist and Author of “Life Patterns, the Secret to Emotional Freedom” and “The 5 Step Cancer Healing Process, a clear and defined pathway”. He is a gifted therapist based on the Sunshine Coast Qld. Australia. read his blog Healing Cancer

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Harold Fiske in the National Examiner, 2/18/82, formerly published at http://thoughtscreate.com/articleexam.html

Well-known healer Charles R. Collins says you don't need faith healers to get well - you can do it yourself using the incredible power of the human mind.

And instead of dealing in vague mystical terms about the power of the mind, Collins says he can offer living proof that mental power [i]s a source of life and death, of sickness and health!
Collins, 47, lives in seclusion in Virgin, Utah, about 150 miles north of Las Vegas. It was in Virgin in the early '70s that Collins first discovered the mind is an instrument that can be tuned and controlled as easily as a musician can tune and control a fine instrument.

The result of mind control, says Collins, is amazing benefits to health and peace of mind. Collins says after he cleansed himself of disease and shed 80 pounds he decided to spread his message to others.
He wrote a book, The ABCs of Life, and opened a practice as a [fa]ith healer in Miami in the mid-70s. The basis of his philosophy is [sh]own in a simple experiment, he says.
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Time for Stillness

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TIME FOR STILLNESS

"We're so engaged in doing things to achieve purposes of outer value that we forget that the inner value, the rapture that is associated with being alive, is what it's all about."
-- Joseph Campbell

The sages all say that the path to liberation is found in entering the stillness within. To experience that stillness, we need to be willing to regularly stop the activity for a while. How do we do this in a busy life? We set our priorities. Perhaps it means giving up a TV program or using a coffee break to grab a few moments of solitude. Perhaps we have to ask our partner, relative or neighbour to give us 30 minutes of time away from the kids.
If we really want something, we can make it happen.

"Learn to pause... or nothing worthwhile will catch up to you."
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The Power of Choice

The Power of Choice

A choice is a decision made between this and that , an acceptance of one thing and a rejection of the other. A choice is the beginning of a set of actions or a step in a process. As such it is evolutionary in that, once the choice is made, that is the end of one step and the next step is presented, that is, taking the action of the decision.

Choices or rather making choices are immensely empowering. When you have made a decision, (which is the acknowledgement making a choice) you have the experience that you are in control, for it is you that made the choice. All choices/decisions are empowering, the act of making a choice is always an empowering act. Don't confuse the act of making a choice with the outcome or result of the choice, that is a separate matter. Let's for the moment simply concentrate on choices. It is simply a fact, that when you make a choice you feel empowered and in control, no matter how fleeting the feeling is.

We can luxuriate in this feeling and give ourselves credit for making a choice, which will empower ourselves even more, for when we make a choice, we grow, we evolve, we become more. Think about it, imagine if you never make a choice !. It is not possible is it, if you don't make a choice - you don't exist. Choices are to be revered as our greatest gift to ourselves.

By Philip Martin

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The Joy of Stillness

The Joy of Stillness : An Exclusive Renegade Health Article by Dr. J.E. Williams

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Yoga and meditation are great ways to ‘unplug’ from our digitally connected world, which leaves us little time for quiet.

Resident Medical Authority: J. E. Williams, OMD, FAAIM
On the first day of 2012, I went to the beach. The Gulf of Mexico was calm and reflective, and warm enough that I could take in the winter sun. During the holidays, I don’t go to cocktail parties, or raw vegan celebrations, or drum circles. This is because in order to have time to write – a solitary deliberate excursion into creativity – I require absolute quiet. To have time to think, a prerequisite to good writing, I need silence. For meditation, not only does the practice foster stillness, it requires utmost quite. And, as a clinician, I’ve found that healing requires all three: stillness, quiet, and a silent mind.
In our digitally connected world, shuttled about by cars, planes, and high-speed trains, where is the time for quiet? Or, for healing? Or, for balance?
As Americans, we spend too much time in front of a screen. The average American logs at least eight hours each day sitting and watching television or sitting and browsing the Internet. Electronic communication is almost instant. Texting and emailing, and social networking reaches friends, family, and followers across the globe. But, when do we find time for ourselves?
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Routine PSA Screening Doesn't Prevent Prostate Cancer Deaths: Study

Routine PSA Screening Doesn't Prevent Prostate Cancer Deaths: Study

Posted: 1/6/12 04:34 PM ET

By Genevra Pittman

NEW YORK (Reuters Health) - Annual screening for prostate cancer doesn't cut men's chances of dying from the disease, according to the latest results of a large screening trial.

Comparing men who were screened each year with so-called PSA tests, for prostate specific antigen, or rectal exams to those who received their usual care, researchers found that more men in the screening group had been diagnosed with prostate cancer after 13 years -- but there was no difference in how many had died from it.

The results support a previous report by the same researchers that found no difference in deaths seven to 10 years after the screening program started.

They are also consistent with recent draft guidelines from the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force recommending that average-risk men not undergo regular PSA screening, according to a researcher who worked on the study.

"Men, if they're considering screening, should be aware that there's a possibility that there's little or no benefit (and) that there certainly are harms to PSA screening," said study co-author Philip Prorok, from the National Cancer Institute in Bethesda, Maryland.

Those harms include catching and treating small cancers that never would have been detected or caused men any problems, Prorok told Reuters Health.

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The Healing Power of the Mind and Visualization

Visualization Helps Foster Healing

From Linda Mackenzie,

A picture is worth a thousand words. We have heard that saying before. This phrase is certainly true in the case of visualization. Visualization, a form of self-hypnosis, is a tool anyone can use to help foster healing. By providing positive pictures (creative imagery) and self-suggestion, visualization can change emotions that subsequently have a physical effect on the body.


Our belief system is based upon the accumulation of verbal and non-verbal suggestions that have been gathered throughout our life experience. Through patterns of repetition and its associated rewards and punishment we learn to create our own perception of reality. In essence, we therefore become what we think. In healing, repetitive use of positive visualization allows access to the mind-body connection. This lets the mind and body work together to foster the healing process of the body on a physical level. What is the mind-body connection and how does it work? When we have an emotion it generates a feeling that turns into a physical sensation. For example: You are watching a horror movie, you feel frightened and then get a chill up your spine. In this case you were getting a negative suggestion through your sensory perception (sight and sound), that produced an emotion of fear which turned into the physical sensation of chills up your spine. Visualization uses positive images to produce positive emotions that manifest into positive physical sensations in the body.
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Fruits of Healing the Hidden Self to Advance Soul

Fruits of Healing the Hidden Self to Advance Soul by Arjun Singhe

 How the fruits of healing the hidden self helps you to find soul:
The fruits of healing your hidden self are fantastic. In as much the journey through reaching into your hidden self can be very hard as some of the things you can unearth can be hard to deal with but the benefits when you heal your inner self can be amazing.

One of the many benefits of healing your hidden self is the improved quality in your judgments. In our day to day decision making process our hidden subconscious mind affect how we approach our decision making process. If you heal your hidden self then one would be able make better decisions.
Take someone who has confidence issues in their hidden self in as much as they would not realize that their subconscious minds would avoid seriously considering positions which requires a lot of public speaking hence their full potential is always not reached in whatever Endeavour one would be pursuing.

When we bury things in our hidden self we might forget about them but they are still there lurking beneath and they affect our well-being, as well as those around us. If you heal your inner hidden self then you would reap the fruits of success.

Healing your hidden self reduces the amount of stress you have and a reduction in stress translates into a much more healthier person. Stress impedes us from being able to fight of illness and getting rid of stress would give us the ability to fight illness hence able to stay healthier. Stress free people are generally more productive and much more relaxed .If you are relaxed everyone around you will notice the difference and the more relaxed you are the easier you are to get on with and it helps you become more approachable and fun to be around. You will realize your relationships and friendships with people grow stronger and better. As soon as I healed my inner self the change was slow but gradual little by little things started changing and I was amazed as to how it changed my life for the better, I started getting on better with my family and my work colleagues which led to me leading a much fuller life. I was more at ease with myself and even went on to attempt things I never thought would be able to try.

When you have an ailing inner self, it seeps all the positive energy from you and once you heal your hidden self you are full of energy again. If you heal, your hidden self then you will have more energy, which will help, in your general well being, be it fighting stress or illness. You will find you have a renewed sense of being. You will be amazed at how much you can be done. Have you ever been just tired and feeling unmotivated, healing your inner self will give you a boost like none other. Do you remember the energy one has when they have just realized their dream can come through you can get that sense of passion and drive by healing your hidden self?

The fruits of healing your hidden self are amazing. Even though the journey is not an easy one it is worth taking because the benefits you will experience by dealing and healing your hidden self are phenomenal, no words can truly express what you will benefit but in material things success is the main thing you will experience and the inner peace you will get well is priceless.

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View life from a different perspective

On a sunny day, a young boy of seven was walking along the bank of a small lake. The boy enjoyed walking and exploring near the blue lake which wasn’t too far from his home. This day was nice and warm and the air still. The boy knelt down beside the lake to look into the water, as he had done many times before; he always enjoyed watching the fish in the lake, wondering what it would be like to be a fish. He was an imaginative boy, and he loved exploring the woods and pastures near the lake. Though he liked playing with the other children in his street, he preferred his time alone exploring. He found the other children noisy and the play harsh. He was a quiet boy and he couldn’t quite grasp the banter and the dynamics involved.

As he knelt down by the lake, he didn’t see any fish but he saw his reflection in the mirror like surface of the lake. It wasn’t the first time he saw his reflection in the lake but this time he looked, really looked and he stared at the reflection looking back at him. He thought what would it be like if he was in the lake looking at himself, kneeling on the bank. He knew what was true, but he always felt free out here, free to pretend and bend what was true, so he let himself be the boy in the lake and he wondered, nothing in particular, just wondered.

The boy slipped into the water, drawn to the reflection, drawn to him in the water and he found himself looking at the boy on the bank and decided to leave his self there. And he wondered what it was like to be the water and he became the water of the lake. How different it was to be the water, to be fluid and not solid. As the water he asked himself what is it that I do and he answered, ‘I am home to the fish and the ducks and quench the thirst of the animals that come to drink’.

The water was inquisitive and wandered to the opposite bank and flowed up upon the grass and lay there. He laid there and felt the grass beneath him and he wondered, nothing in particular, just wondered. The water became the grass and it felt good. He felt the expansiveness and he felt the sun and all was good. He asked himself what he did and he answered that he fed the sheep and gave shelter to the ants and the insects.

He became aware of the tree over there and he thought that it would be good to know something of the tree and so to the tree he went and the tree did feel good. He held the tree and felt the bark. The tree he became. He felt himself planted deeply in the ground, feeling tall and strong, feeling free. And to himself he wondered, what it was that he did and he thought he would answer himself and the answer came, ‘I am a home to the birds, I give shade to the sheep and sometimes a young boy comes and sits at my base’. And the boy sat there looking out to nowhere and he wished there were mountains here, for he had never seen a real mountain except in books and he would dearly love to climb a mountain.

So he sat and he sat and thought of a mountain and he found himself climbing that mountain and as time went by he reached the top of that mountain and he felt ecstatic. From the top of the mountain he saw things differently, actually he didn’t see anything, for he wasn’t looking at anything but he knew he was seeing differently. He felt like he was on top of the world.

He was very happy, just sitting on the top of the mountain and he wondered about nothing in particular, he just wondered and he became the mountain. He didn’t think about becoming the mountain and he doesn’t know how he became the mountain, he doesn’t know when he became the mountain, he didn’t know where or why he became the mountain. But he was the mountain and it was good. It was quiet and still and he felt so big and strong and immovable. It surprised him how huge and massive he was and the mountain was still. He hadn’t realized how mountains felt, but he now knew. The stillness grew, the quietness, the mountainness grew and the feeling stopped, just stillness, quietness and mountainness.

The mountainness grew, the mountain’s awareness grew, he was aware of the land below, of the tree, of the grass, of the lake and the boy at the lake and all the land beyond, still quietly still. There was no boundary between the mountain and all before it, it all blended into one. There was nothing to do, he didn’t need anything, there was no wants, no desires, no thoughts, just stillness and an awareness that the stillness was everything, everything was in the stillness, but no desire for anything. At some level or somehow there was an awareness that to know, see, or have anything of the everything would cost a little bit of the stillness. Noise, movement would enter, the stillness would become less, less whole.

The stillness stayed and it was good. The tree, here he was under the tree, how long he was the mountain he could not tell. But it was time to go home. From that time on, especially when he was in the classroom and he was lucky for he sat at the back by a window, he might look out and see the mountain and there he found himself and the stillness. For he was a quiet boy and he tired of the noise of the classroom, most of what went on in the classroom seemed like pointless noise. He learned all he needed as the mountain.

By Philip Martin

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Freedom from anger

By Philip Martin
Many people have an issue with their anger and seek help to resolve their anger issues. It can be said that anger has a negative impact on their lives and sometime there is a heavy price to pay.

Anger seems to arise automatically from within the person and then there is the sense that they were out of control. No one enjoys the feeling of losing control and so the person may feel bad and insecure.
Anger is a range of emotions dictating a conflict between two or more persons, even if you are both people e.g.; "I am mad with myself". Anger can vary from frustration and irritation to being enraged.

What is the meaning or message of anger? What is the unconscious mind trying to communicate? - The message is - that someone has broken or violated a rule that is held in your unconscious mind.

This part of your unconscious then feels personally abused, that something unfair has happened, that an injustice has occurred and it feels powerless to stop it. In this moment there is a temporary inner sensation of helplessness and vulnerability. When this happens you are instantly recapturing the feelings you felt when you experienced a helpless and powerless situation in childhood.

How to free yourself from this unpleasant emotion?

1. Realize everybody has different rules and place varying amounts of importance to them.

2. When you feel anger rising, ask yourself "Which one of my rules is being broken?"

3. Ask yourself "Is this rule important in this situation? Does it really matter?" If it does, then state your position, which sets clear boundaries. E.g.: Someone has told a lie and your rule is 'to be honest', if it is an insignificant lie, you might decide it doesn't matter, anyway the lie belongs to them. If you feel it is important, then you can say to them "I like being honest". Both ways diffuses the anger because you do not feel threatened or powerless.

4. Spend some quiet time writing out all the rules you think you may hold, regardless how silly some might seem. Then ask yourself "did I have a choice in accepting these rules (realize internal rules are enforced upon us by our childhood environment) or were they thrusted on me.

5. Write another list, this list to be rules you choose to have.

Doing the above will help you to discover more about yourself and help to free you from anger and the frustration that follows on from anger.

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The need for Acceptance

By Philip Martin

The Need for Acceptance

"Knowing others is wisdom; knowing the self is enlightenment."
-- Tao Te Ching

Before we are born, whilst we are in the womb, we are part of the womb, part of the mother, all connected, an intermingling of chemicals, energy and whatever else is there. When we are born, a physical connection is severed. And we breathe to obtain oxygen and we suckle at the breast for nutrition. Our senses pick up more sensations and we do not yet have the understanding that we are ourselves, that we are separate. We are very aware of how wonderful we feel. We are very aware of being, but we are unaware that what we see is not us. As a baby we feel that everything in our world is us, we cannot distinguish between out there and in here.

Every sense that we sense is a part of us, we experience the sensing, are we not the experience? We have experiences and because we feel those experiences, we naturally assume we are the experience. As the baby’s mind develops, it begins to learn that there is a difference between the world out there and the world in here. It begins to realise that the object/person called Mummy is not me. The baby/toddler then becomes aware of its vulnerability and at this point realises the need for acceptance of itself by its mother. It needs its mother to love it, in order to guarantee its own survival.

As the child grows and develops it imitates its parents as a form of love. The child does this because it loves its parents totally and a desire to be as like as its parents as possible. This is the aim of the child - to be one with the parents. This is how we learn most of our information, by mimicking our parents. In this way we guarantee our survival. We learn to be like our parents for they have survived and we learn their survival methods.

All young children have a desire for all in their world to love and be loved (In the earliest stages of life the baby is only aware of love and the absence of love). A child wants to be loved as it is, as his nature is, if we have to alter our nature and behaviour in a certain way to achieve love, then it is not us, our nature that they are loving. They are not loving the real us, they are loving what they want, how they want and we feel that our realness, our essence is not good enough.

At this stage in the young child’s development it is sure to have suffered some rejection. As rarely we love the child as completely and totally as much as the child wants to be loved. The child ends up with its need for acceptance being unfulfilled. This unmet need like all unmet needs creates pain for the child and the child seeks to avoid the reoccurrence of the pain by varying its behaviour. The child’s aim is to get more acceptance, but unfortunately the acceptance is rarely forthcoming. And the child either continues in attention seeking behaviour or avoidance behaviour which is denial of the need for acceptance (which is fear of rejection).

By now the child is maturing and another need, that of individuality is forming and the child needs to assert itself in the world. The child needs to be an individual and be self reliant. This need is obviously important for the young adult to ensure the survival of the species. This need for individuation though, competes with the need for acceptance. If the need for acceptance is fulfilled it is an easy passage to that of individuation. But sadly it is all too common for the need of acceptance to be unfulfilled and the young adult finds itself with the conflict of two important needs (that are now in competition) controlling it’s behaviour.

At this time the young adult displays the behaviour of conforming with its peers, behaving in a similar manner to his/her friends so as to be accepted. Though the more they behave in this accepting behaviour the more the need for being an individual (a somebody) becomes unfulfilled. If the young adult behaves in an individual manner the more its need for acceptance becomes unfulfilled. A real dilemma ensues and it is one that most teenagers find themselves in. This conflict of opposing needs reflects a conflict between oneness and duality that perpetrates the civilisation of mankind. Explored later.

The teenager matures into adulthood with the continuing struggle between unmet needs. One of these needs becomes more important than the other and the adult sacrifices one for the other. The behaviour pattern then is set. You attempt to fulfil the chosen need, alas to no avail.

For, if you choose to fulfil your need for individuation, you will simply become aware of the need for acceptance. You will simply feel unaccepted (rejected). Becoming an individual will just make you feel more distant from people and you will feel you don’t fit in or belong. If you choose to fulfil your need for acceptance, then you will become acutely aware that pleasing people just makes you feel like a nobody. Every time you do things to gain acceptance and be like your friends or do what is accepted. Just accentuates the void inside, which is where you as a unique individual belong.

Teenagers in particular but also adults can satisfy these opposing needs in a shallow fashion by forming gangs, clubs, sporting supporters etc. Whereby for example a gang, will have its identity and those in the gang feel a part of something, they feel accepted and by having the identity of the club they feel different (superior) to others. The identity of the gang is a single identity, they feel very individual whilst they are together and rejecting other such groups!

As this conflict continues we feel we have no control, which is a very important need. We feel we have no control because we cannot fulfil our needs of acceptance and individuation. To compensate for this lack of control we look for order in our lives. We like to be certain about things so that we know what is going on. We do this so we can feel safe, to have some semblance of control. Rules come in handy here. We want everybody to obey the same rules, and it seems to make us feel safe. It only temporarily makes us feel safe, and a pseudo safe it is. The thought of questioning or doing away with rules scares us. We think everything will fall into chaos, and what is chaos but the total lack of control.

We are afraid of chaos because we do not have self control. Our need for self control is unfulfilled. If our need for self control is unmet, then we cannot trust ourselves and we cannot rely on ourselves. We feel like we are inferior, a nobody, a nothing. The downward spiral continues. We become aware of how important the good opinion of others is to us. We live our life as a pretence. Portraying ourselves as nice good people etc and it is very important that others see us as a good person or a strong person or however we portray our self image.

The more we keep up this pretence, the more we are untrue to our real nature. We dare not let anyone see who we really are. Even the straight shooters, the people who say ‘What you see is what you get’ are likely to be fooling themselves.

Underlying all of this is a belief - ‘I am nothing/a nobody’. This belief may be easily felt or it may be a whisper of a feeling deep within, buried beneath layers of denial or numbness.

We do not want to look at ourselves. We want to fix the symptoms. We want to change the outside and we want the world to treat us better. We will do anything except look inside and this is understandable. Because we have the misconception, that we are nothing. I can tell you that it is a lie - this ‘I am nothing’ but because you believe it, you think I am wrong. Beliefs are extremely powerful but they are not necessarily true, they are only our individual perspectives.

The solution to your sufferings is to find your True Self. Accessing your True Self will enable you to have a wonderful life. The journey to your True Self is via the misconceptions and fears you have about yourself. Be willing to accept and acknowledge your fears about your self, investigate them and you will discover the truth of your True Self.

Begin today to accept your self as you are, as O.K, without guilt, embarrassment, shame or humiliation and you will ease your fears. Self Acceptance - it is your natural right.

It is easier to judge than accept. It is easier to reject than accept or are we just lazy? When we feel threatened we tend to react so that we survive. We either fight or flee, this is our first instinct, but if we accept the situation as it is, without judgement and accept the other viewpoints. We can make wise decisions instead of dangerous knee jerk reactions. I look at countries in conflict and it is like looking at young children in the school yard ‘You did it first’ - ‘No you did it first’ and on and on it goes. No acceptance of things as they are. Only blame as a reaction to threat. The reaction is a lack of mature self control and so we feel more vulnerable and we lash out to feel powerful. This only proves and escalates our weakness.

The emotional need of acceptance is the need to be accepted as we are in this moment. We are human beings. We do not need any further judgement, expectations or labels. Parents tend to see their children as they might be in the future. They see their own desires, wants and fears. It is truly a beautiful sight to behold when you see a parent accepting their child without any agendas or expectations. Many mothers do this when they have a new baby. For they simply see the baby as it is and the awe of this new life is accepted as it is. A new unique human being, perfect as it is! If only we carried this awe through life, this non judgemental awareness. In these moments these mothers are experiencing reality, they are witnessing what is. But sadly this is not appreciated for what it is and the mother is urged to forego this nonsense and start interfering, controlling, moulding, preparing, and get back to (so called) reality, and the essence of what is, once again is misconstrued. Alas.

This emotional need for acceptance in fact can only be manufactured by the individual. You are the only person who can fulfil your need for acceptance. For only by accepting yourself can you feel accepted. The acceptanceness is the feeling you feel after you have made it (the actual feeling of acceptance). It is uniquely your own experience, this holds true for every feeling. For only by accepting yourself can you then know you are accepted. Other people accepting you can feel good but without you accepting yourself, as you are, your need will continue to be unfulfilled and a source of anguish.

But why is there a need for acceptance and is there a deeper layer? Glad you asked. You do not need acceptance to survive. So it is not a need. Your ego needs it though, to survive (so it thinks), that is why it is an emotional need. Why does the ego need to be accepted, how can it not accept itself? Think about it, do you doubt your existence? Do you doubt you are reading this book? Do you doubt that the chair you are sitting on is there? Do you reject the chair? Do you doubt its existence? Do you need to accept the chair? Your answer to these questions is no, yet one of the questions, the answer is yes.

You do doubt your existence. This may sound ridiculous, but your identity/ego, explained later, formed early in childhood. And there was a period of time when your totality existed before the construct of the identity of you. The identity is a thing, something, a label and yet just before it was created it wasn’t there. The new identity feels like it came from nothingness. One moment it wasn’t there and the next moment it was and since that moment, ego has been deathly afraid of slipping back into nothingness and therefore ceasing to exist. From that first moment it has two possibilities. Two scenarios it lives with constantly, this or that. It can be nothing or something, no – body or somebody, existing or not existing, here or not here and it has no choice but to keep both possibilities/opposites.

Your ego lives constantly with this paradox, that at the same moment it is both nothing and something. It is impossible for the ego/identity to remove “I am nothing”. If it discarded and removed the “I am nothing” the “I am something” would disappear too. This happens for two reasons, one – when you get rid of the statement “I am nothing” you are also getting rid of “I am”, so you discard all “I am’s” and if you discard “I am”, what have you got? – nothing. Two – the ego/identity is a construct, it has no place, no form, no substance, in fact it is nothing. It is aware of something that it seems to control, own and communicate with, something that it is attached to. That is the body and that body was existing before ego/identity’s emergence but as I am this identity then I am not that which was before (the body). But as I have awareness of ‘something’ before my existence and I could only be Nothingness before my existence, then I am aware of nothingness and I was nothingness. Therefore there is an “ I am nothingness”, the ‘I’ cannot conceived of it not existing even though it knows of its beginning. This is because the identity of I is a concept and as such the identity can know what it is not (the body any everything else) but it cannot know what it is, as it has no form, no matter and if it can’t know what it is. It can’t know of its non existence. Hence mans desire, to know himself, to define himself to be validated and needing others to accept him. For if he is accepted by people (things that have form and matter, he sees them as whole but himself as an I within a body) then that may be proof that he exists and is real. More about these dilemmas later in Singularity and Duality and in Language.

Here is a beautiful piece of truth, very elegantly worded. It is worth printing out and placing it where you can see and read it every day.

ACCEPTANCE

Acceptance simply means that you make a commitment:

“Today I will accept people, situations, circumstances, and events as they occur,” This means I will know that this moment is as it should be. This moment … the one you’re experiencing right now .… is the culmination of all the moment you have experienced in the past. This moment is as it is because the entire universe is as it is.

When you struggle against this moment, you’re actually struggling against the entire universe. Instead, you can make the decision that today you will not struggle against the whole universe by struggling against this moment. This means that your acceptance of this moment is total and complete. You accept things as they are, not as you wish they were in this moment. This is important to understand. You can wish for things in the future to be different, but in this moment you have to accept things as they are.

When you feel frustrated or upset by a person or a situation, remember that you’re not reacting to the person or the situation, but to your feelings about the person or situation. These are your feelings, and your feelings are not someone else’s fault. When you recognize and understand this completely, you are ready to take responsibility for how you feel and to change it. And if you can accept things as they are, you are ready to take responsibility for your situation and all the events you see as problems. ....…

Author - Deepak Chopra

It’s you resistance to WHAT IS that causes your suffering .....… Buddha

"What concerns me is not the way things are, but rather the way
people think things are."
-- Epicetus

“At bottom every man knows well enough that he is a unique being, only once on this earth; and by no extraordinary chance will such a marvelously picturesque piece of diversity in unity as he is, ever be put together a second time.”

--Friedrich Nietzsche

"As long as I am this or that, I am not all things."
-- Meister Eckhart

"Inside every older person is a younger person--wondering what the hell happened."

-- Cora Harvey Armstrong

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